Wednesday, September 24, 2008

On A Date With The Women, Part 2

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So, there we were, junior popcorn in hand and large rootbeer in the cup holder. I know I said it'd be a tub of popcorn and a Coke, but when the husband agrees to attend a chick flick and the horrors of an expanding waistline are ever present, then compromises must be made. I was relishing the thought of a movie that didn't involve car bombs and large machinery being hoisted over shoulders. The Calm One was ready to politely sit through a movie that he thought for sure he'd hate. I won't keep you in suspense, he actually proclaimed the movie "not bad." Which we all know is high praise when coming from a man!

Yes, we finally got around to seeing The Women. The bottom line is that if you are looking for an hour or two of entertainment, this is a fun movie to see. There were some laugh out loud moments and some poignant moments that tied the movie neatly together.

Now, dear reader, if you plan on seeing the movie and are loathe to find out specific details, then STOP READING NOW. You may never get permission like this again!

There were the usual cast of characters: Meg Ryan plays the part of a "perfect" housewife who finds out that things really aren't so perfect, Annette Bening plays the steadfastly single working woman and Debra Messing is a bohemian mother-hen type. There is also the token non-heterosexual character played by Jada Pinkett Smith.

I know I've worded that in an odd way - you'd not believe the hits my blog would get if I'd worded it otherwise. And I only mention it at all because I know my more conservative readers would want to be aware of this facet of the movie. The movie mentions the topic briefly several times and there is a scene in an openly non-heterosexual environment. Honestly, her character doesn't do much to expedite the plot and could have been left out altogether. It seemed that her character's only function was to be non-white and to be non-heterosexual so as to appeal to a broader audience.

Just callin' them as I see them.

The movie deals with what every woman struggles with. How to be a good friend, wife, mother and daughter without losing herself in the process. And I was happily surprised at the end when Meg Ryan's character makes some difficult choices. Not many women would give their cheating husband a second chance.

There was one point in the movie that as a christian I had a little trouble with. It was when Bette Midler's over-the-top character (which she plays so well) basically says to Meg Ryan's character: You have to be selfish! What do YOU want? Because when it all comes down to it that's the most important thing. (That's the Jubilee dynamic equivalent version of the conversation)

Well, no, it's not the most important thing. Certainly, there has to be a balance. Jesus rested and took care of His needs, but He was all about the other guy and He was submissive by doing God's will for his life. He identified himself through His Heavenly Father. The world seems to shun a woman who chooses to be identified through her husband. I say, what's so wrong with that? I still know who I am, can still do what I want to do and be all God wants me to be while submitting to the headship of my husband. That's the way God designed us to be. And you know what? It works. And it works very, well. Thankyouverymuch.

Now, having said all of that, this is a great girlfriend flick. Just ask the three ladies who sat behind us and gave a running commentary throughout the entire movie. The Calm One was able to tune them out (there goes that selective hearing again), but it was more difficult for me to refrain from turning around and shushing them. I know that going to the movies is a group experience in many ways, but honestly, during a movie, I don't want to be privy to every thought that goes rambling through someone else's head. I have enough trouble keeping up with my own stream of consciousness!

Just sayin.

The high point of the experience, for me (and The Calm One, truth be told) was when we were leaving the theater. One of those female commentators remarked to her companions, "Our guys wouldn't see a movie like this with us. That's awesome."

That's right ladies, he is awesome. You are forgiven.


  1. Oh! I want to see that movie... so I didn't read all of it... thanks for the heads-up :)

  2. I thought the ending where she's giving birth was hilarious.

    Well said all the way around.


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