Wednesday, January 15, 2014

My eHarmony and PayPal Nightmare -- Update

Thought I would give you an update on my eHarmony and PayPal nightmare  (Missed it the first time?  No worries:  get the scoop by clicking here).
(You can also find my happy-happy post about how I have resumed my relationship with PayPal here.)

eHarm (emphasis on harm)

eHarmony (hereafter to be known as, "eHarm") never did respond to my email inquiry.  Those 10 days they had to respond are long gone.  I was not even given the courtesy of a form letter denial.


Oh, they still expect to be paid.  I will probably be hounded by creditors before long.  Who knows what it will do to my credit rating.  But since I pay cash for everything, I am not one bit worried about a credit rating.

PayPal did, indeed, try a second time to pay eHarm through my bank account.  Thankfully, my bank did as instructed and stopped payment, so I was not charged.  ::sigh::  I love hometown banks!  PayPal sent me a form letter telling me that a second denial resulted in PayPal paying eHarm with the balance I had in my PayPal account.

Thankfully, that account was $0, so no payment was made.  I have no idea what happens should I ever accrue a PayPal balance.  PayPal did come through with their promise of a $25 "bonus" for my troubles.  Bonus?  Yeah, okay, we'll use their terminology.

It has been much harder to give up on PayPal.  I have not made any purchases through them since "the incident," but shopping online has been greatly hampered by not using PayPal.  I am still of two minds about ever using them again, knowing their "hands off" policy and disinterest in educating their workers on how PayPal actually works.

How do I find the joy in this situation?  Hmmm . . . joy . . . I cannot find joy in this situation unless it is to say that at least eHarm is a service I can do without.  And I do have a blog with a few readers left with which to share my experience and warn the unsuspecting.

Counting it all joy,


  1. Hi, I have the same situation happening and just did a stop payment. What ended up happening? Did you get creditors or paypal pursuing you?

    1. As far as I know, no creditors pursuing me. I didn't get a refund either.

  2. I have not had any creditors seeking payment. My PayPal relationship has been restored and I am happy with subsequent payments etc, through them. I use PayPal almost exclusively as method of payment online. Thanks for commenting!


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